All of these are just about gaining all the power in a relationship, which in my experience doesn't go too well. When you have all the power all the time, you start to turn into the worst version of yourself—arrogant, entitled, dismissive, condescending, etc., and this can cause you to stagnate in your "mission" outside the relationship. Then you resent the girl for holding you back and dump her.
But I've also been on the other end of the power spectrum in a relationship, and that's no good either. My first long-term girlfriend was the popular girl in school, so she just naturally held all the cards. This kind of situation makes you feel weak, insignificant, less confident, and expendable, which will slow your "mission" and really do a number on your self worth.
Best situation is to have a power balance, where you and your partner constantly challenge each other and hold each other to a higher standard. You end up growing together and become better people. In the end, it's really just about respect, for yourself and for your partner. If each of you respects yourself and each other, then there will be a proper power balance. At first there will be plenty of arguments as each of you push and pull to find the middle of the power spectrum, but once you're there, arguments turn to simple disagreement and discussion to maintain balance.
I've talked about this at length many times with my current gf, because we both came from relationships where we held all the power. We both left those relationships because we stagnated.