YA you've already decided if you'll sleep with a man as a woman, instantaneously, it's not only looks, but its several, even a lot of instant decisions, and anything after is... either making it more likely or less likely. You can sleep with a woman, that doesn't even mean jack, that doesn't mean "you're going out now." / she's yours. AND numbers, makeouts don't either, esp in super fake societies. People are people,whether they're women or men. WOMEN can get 100 ppl to hit on them in a day, a man like0- 4-5 max, maybe depends, the rest like it's all up to them.
WOMEN like decisivness, not weak will, and "alpha" in terms of being a winner, accepted, not giving a fuck (in a positive way), and leading (not control freak). A lot is needed but it's natural after working on one's character. I ALWAYS had potential mates, but at times bad habits and inexperience, and was probably needy at 20. 22, learned way more. LIFE is a game, but to win that game... one needs to fucking learn a lot, about themselves and others.
ATTRACTION is super mental for dating, and also for business, who your friends are etc. IT has to be, because like 25 people I stayed up and talked to all night off the top of my memory, and we became dating partners, best friends, or business partners, or great friends in school/area/ some group. THIS is untrue of like 99% of people, something drew us together. And It was like mindeness, physical, and also ***MENTAL ATTRACTION***. (or whatever word describes that). An emotional connection.
ANd yeah of course emotional connection is strengthened after having sex (good sex), but to have sex, you need to turn her on, mentally, before you can break thru those walls.