Dating apps do suck for guys. but with the rite career and pics and shyt, i was doing well there (just for ego, I actually preferred randomly meeting women in real life), in this city.
I did well at times on Tinder in Toronto but I mean, people were retarded: "what are your intentions." "i only date vegans".
Girls are nicer in Calgary, edmonton for sure, I mean hot girls. People are nicer in smaller cities than those with 5-10mn 20mn and I am "faster" and like rush rush rush, unlike most ppl here.
Most of that is ADHD/ASD maybe and also bc of family, career pressures. I don't really act like someone from a smaller city (tho that is still 1.2mn ppl now it is like 2mn), nor like someone from Toronto (4-5mn) but yeah I mean I don't really act like anyone tbh.
I think curing something horrible gave me tons of confidence plus I felt more in my lane and like all things were going up. Sometimes dating in Toronto was fine, it was just, I had to finish my school stuff to go get into law, then I'd be set.
SOME is easier there bc there's things to do, kind of late at nite, and like it depends where you live and how close you are to colleges.
My uni was like 4hrs commuting a day, if I lived and went to school downtown (which I obviously should have, when I transferred from here to there), it would have been better.
Being ripped for sure it isn't too too hard in either city, if attractive and or a nice career. BEING lost all the time, autistic makes it harder.
Every girl downtown wanted to hangout except for gross fat ones, and leftists. I just I mean I needed to keep fixed, then fix up things, then IDK felt a bit pfs again and that and ASD fucked me for sure.
Looking back, even when I first moved to Toronto women asked me out too once in shape again.
Women have been for like 20 years, i think my autism/aspergers and being dead inside (22 for a time and fixing that by maybe 23-24) helped
FELT more attractive and like i can date at 25 and 27 etc esp after ADHD medicine like life was on track, i am reliable. This got rekt with PFS, but fixed it in spades. ALL i had to do was keep mineral balancing or maybe do carnivore then and stay nice good mood and good libido and it'd be way easier.
WOMEN are easier in USA tho for sure. AND toronto is one of the worst places to date. I can do decently there but I mean there's so many ppl now, I wouldn't bother. I don't think that city is good for mental health and yeah I have some good friends there, but I mean business wise, practicing anything like law or medicine, or anything cost of living, smallness of class size, making a community is easier here.
My life would have been different going to a couple downtown schools vs a commuter school... but yeah I mean it'd be better all the time, if ADHD was taken care of earlier and also ASD.
AND if no antidepressants ever.
MY first gf, but not first attempt per se was in London, after EFfexor and I was heavier and not nearly and strong, and a drunk. But better life... and better quality. I can get more women for sure when I fix up my act, but the thing is I almost never try. Self investment, dressing for success, and lifting and being committed helps a lot. And following my path, the thing is my path gets destroyed every once in a while and it is from bad health outcomes/ it is from meds. I mean seroquel , effexor at 19-20, pfs at 30.. and ya the vax a bit later.
IF I didn't have insane trust issues and also autism/ i wouldn't have been silent... and i would have reached out more to lots of baddies. I just needed to fix career a bit OR master trading and skip career (or have that as a "non traditional career"). Solving so much on my own, getting aesthetic, losing any insecurity (had an extra nipple, had a bit of loose skin, had like not enough muscle, this and that, worrying about hair), all that shyt was gone basically by 30. BUT then fin syndrome, then it was really gone.
I was aesthetic and in better shape than 85 90% of ppl easily, by 23-24 but it was INSANE work ethic and to fix what I didn't know was PSSD or similar... and also to get life on track/ cuz of pressure.
PLUS to fix loose skin and like I was formerly fat.
But yeah i have been rejecting and ignoring groups of people, women etc for like 20-21 yrs. Also hard to recognize ppl (and i often didn't wear glasses outside, even tho i need em). I can't wear contacts i wish i could, And i'd never get laser eye surgery knowing my luck with meds and such.
I honestly could have dated or slept with like 30-40 different women 2018-2019 but for Autism or whatever. Instead of like 5. And instead of missing out on people that really liked me and missing social cues.
I really wish ASD and ADHD were dealt with earlier and Effexor, Accuatane before that, and Finasteride of course were never taken.
Carnivore for life... or like TEI at 15-16, id prolly be married at 25 and done law at 26-27. Instead my life was completely ruined at 21.. and i had to fix it somehow at 23-24.. and like beyond ruined/ near death at 30. So yeah, that hurts dating a lot but lots of women are fine with a strong guy who's life is a work in progress.
KEPT all my crypto ever/ I'd be done... like 8-10 btc, 20 eth.. etc, etc.. make funds off the like passive income, Liquidity Pools and shyt.
AND there you go, I thought I beat it but yeah somehow ADHD is still bad for life. Definitely good for being cool and charming and outgoing definitely very very bad for life if u choose the wrong things
and or drugs. And definitely i mean, you're not like anyone if you have ASD and ADHD.
But it is good. I am an outlier sort of like a brown guy with no accent, who is jacked and ripped and like who's friends all sold drugs and stuff. I am not a normal person... lol
but I mean gym helped a lot. Some guidance and knowl about ASD and ADHD earlier would have helped a ton too. I really feel like crashing FROM PFS was worse bc I felt like I had bipolar II at the time (cuz i was diagnosed with it... or like "probable" BPII) and that it was low energy, i was tired. No - it was epigenetic damage/ changes and like a weapon was destroying me.
Pretty sure ASD/ADHD makes life decisions and trusting ppl v hard. Plus trust issues, I was betrayed while having maybe mania... on effexor XR. I was a kid. I moved to England then, then to Toronto.. then eventually fixed my life. It was pretty fucking hard.
PFS was even easier. WITH that in mind, I think carnivore and then TEI isn't that horrible. Staying the course on it tho may be hard.
Also travelling always makes things a bit easier. I got laid in Mexico and USA sometimes just first day, going out to niteclubs. AND I fucking hate niteclubs and I hate ... probably most people or I am indifferent rather. No wonder i hate em with hEDS/HSD or autism.
Whatever country you're in/.. women and people in general will be nicer in places with 500k -2mn ppl 1mn ppl rather than the huge city centres. For sure. Maybe not always, but usually.
