Helen is right that this guy Elliot is right!
I like Elliot Hulse but I disagree with him here.
It is a state of mind. People who are alpha male dominate environment and people around them.
You can be biggest cunt on earth and still be an alpha male.
This is a young alpha @ 1:50:
You see he does not apologise, is calm, does not give a fuck. This is alpha mindset.
I will not even go further in the comments....
This young guy is NOT alpha! He is in a freeze state of the autonomic nervous system. And yes he said he was sorry. Nobody in the party would have done what happened if he was an alpha.
This teen is a false calm!
The difference with a real calm is easy to make: the real calm is connected, socially engaged, shows life and facial mobility, a voice with prosody, eyes that shine...
No, alpha is not about dominating, though alpha can lead. The one that dominates uses fear and controls the others through pressure.
Alpha is not even a state of mind. It is about the ANS, and Elliot explain perfectly what it is without saying the word ANS even once. It is about confidence in your body, which means that your ANS is very resilient and can go from calm to activated according to the circumstances. They can ACT. the teen on the second video could not act and was overwhelmed by what happened, and he is in a state of shock. That is why the journalist tells him he does not look sorry!
Elliot says it perfectly from mn 8 when he talks about confidence in your body. Heart, guts and balls are all 3 the common way to talk about the ANS. You are able to listen to the messages of your body. No problem if you even feel fear, an alpha can stand fear, in the sense of the body feeling there is something wrong, a threat, a danger. Then they can act, and they do not freeze easily!
And if then happen to freeze in a bad situation, they will, but less easily, and they will come out of it better. Yes they will have all these reactions, because they are from the ANS, meaning they are automatic! They just happen in a more adapted way, more adapted to the present situation.... for most people, present reactions are also more influenced by the past, so reactions can be disproportionated.
I had an alpha bitch, yes, a female dog... and she could be half asleep with a lot of fuss around and did not give a fuck. I now have an alpha sheep, well, ewe. She is the most observative of all the sheep I have. She rushes to be the first because she can stand more pressure than the others. Thanksfully she loves corn as much as the others, because she is the most difficult to handle, and she can take the others where she wants.
In general this is a permanent state, but some people can behave in alpha mode in some circumstances, in general difficult circumstances like natural catastrophe, and they will be the best help. The get an unusual strength because of their big heart and the connexion they establish, and the real urge to save and help will give them full strenth to act above their usual capacities. In somatic ways, we call this "to hold the field" (of energy).
